It rains and rains again!
Oct. 7th, 2001 02:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
missfrostSomething Pippa said, and something someone at work said, have made me realise why I'm not good at flirting.
It's totally and completely instinctive, but if 'strangers' try and start a conversation with me I freeze! I'm not just talking about flirting either - any attempt to chat to me at the bus stop will be met with a one word answer. If someone catches my eye in a pub or club I will automatically look away without even considering my reaction. Anyone who tries to make conversation at the bar will probably be glared at and ignored even if they're gorgeous! What sort of primal instinct is that?
I do absolutely hate trying to chat to strangers. It's very different in a group: I can happily talk to friends of friends, or chat to strangers easily if a more outgoing friend is with me.
And conversely I am a very different person at work. Someone at work shocked me by 'guessing' this last week, particularly because I'd been thinking the same thing about three hours earlier. I am confident and outgoing to the point of arrogance in the office. Even to the extent that I replied along the lines of "God yes do you think I'd have friends outside work if I acted like this - I really don't care if people at work like me or not."
Oh god I have to go out, five minutes ago.........
It's totally and completely instinctive, but if 'strangers' try and start a conversation with me I freeze! I'm not just talking about flirting either - any attempt to chat to me at the bus stop will be met with a one word answer. If someone catches my eye in a pub or club I will automatically look away without even considering my reaction. Anyone who tries to make conversation at the bar will probably be glared at and ignored even if they're gorgeous! What sort of primal instinct is that?
I do absolutely hate trying to chat to strangers. It's very different in a group: I can happily talk to friends of friends, or chat to strangers easily if a more outgoing friend is with me.
And conversely I am a very different person at work. Someone at work shocked me by 'guessing' this last week, particularly because I'd been thinking the same thing about three hours earlier. I am confident and outgoing to the point of arrogance in the office. Even to the extent that I replied along the lines of "God yes do you think I'd have friends outside work if I acted like this - I really don't care if people at work like me or not."
Oh god I have to go out, five minutes ago.........
